September Meeting
What has helped you through out this new life the most. Is it your family? your faith? Support groups? A ritual? Music? Physical activity? A new interest? It could be anything. Tell us about how whatever it is has helped you. Please feel free to share photo's,videos, websites, support group information and so on.I had to think about this for awhile... My husband has been my rock, he listens to me rant and cry about the same things over and over, it helps to get it off my chest. 5 months after Kasey grew his wing my friend found a support group for CDH parents. That has helped my healing the most. There are many people who understand what I am feeling. Before I joined CHERUBS I felt alone, no one knew what I was going through, and they could pretend, but they would never know and that wasn't comforting or getting me anywhere in my day to day life. I found Carly's blog To Write Their Names In the Sand through another CDH mom and I had to have Kasey's name written in the sand-THANK YOU CARLY!!!!!!!! The beach means a lot to my family, we go every Christmas to the beach and relax. When I found out I was pregnant with Kasey and figured out his due date, we had to cancel our Christmas vacation to the beach because he was due the day we were to leave. I had many dreams of taking my punkin to the beach and playing... Those dreams came crashing down Dec 19 (1 day before he was supposed to be born). Blogging has also helped me too. I am amazed how many of us baby lost mommas there are... We are TTC and that has helped me a little, but its hard too especially since Kasey was conceived when we were not trying... now I couldn't try harder and can't seem to make it happen...
The agony of TTC after losing a precious little one is so intense. It took us a while to conceive our rainbow baby.
ReplyDeleteIt's great you're so strong for each other.
With love,
Jess
Thinking of you, Nicolle. I am praying for you to conceive soon. I'm kind of the opposite of you. Sylvia was so planned and we lost her. This time I didn't plan it so I figured maybe it will be alright. But, the case of Kasey shows that we just never know what the outcome will be. What will be will be. Hugs to you, my dear!
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Oh, I am so sorry for your loss. Blogging is an incredible way to connect with other babylost mamas. I am glad your hubby will listen, it means so much.
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Nicolle, I wanted to let you know I do Hope Collages for babylost parents to memorialize their babies who have left too soon. I would be honored to do one for for Kasey. I started doing this in honor of my firstborn Jenna Belle, who died a little over four months ago, she graced us with her presence for 13 days. You can see some other Hope Collages at:
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Love to the sky
Carly's photographs are so beautiful aren't they? I love the ones she did for my Florence, and have them framed in my home. Everyone comments on them.
ReplyDeleteFinding a group of people who have went through the same thing with their baby really helps. The beach has special meaning to me too as we left for a family vacation just days after receiving our fatal diagnosis. The trip was a godsend. We are TTC too and it hasn't happened yet. We've been trying for 5 months.
ReplyDeleteI hear you. I too am having alot of trouble and its so hard to have to try after loss. Child loss is impossible. Infertility is impossible. Both... overwhelming. Thank you for sharing.
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